Advice from a divorce attorney

I was speaking with one of my clients, a divorce attorney, who gave me an insight into why people get divorced.

After a divorce is finalized, he said he could predict whether the persons divorced would have a successful second marriage, or if they were destined to divorce over and over in failed marriages.

He said, If they put the blame on their former spouse, "ie it's his fault," then the next marriage was doomed to the same fate as the last.

If they asked themselves "What could I have done differently?" the next marriage would most likely succeed.

So then, when we disagree with our spouse, what question do we ask ourselves?